Some Guidelines when working with children

1. Always believe that the child's intention is not to annoy you. He is doing something only because something is bothering or he is not liking something.
2. Acceptance is the key. if you cannot accept , than respect, if you cannot respect you can at least appreciate the efforts of the child.
3. State your expectations to your child.
   
4. We are there to guide the child not to teach him anything.
   
5. Switch to consequence instead of punishment or threats.
6. If you have made a mistake acknowledge it to the child.
   
7. Its the behavior which needs o be corrected and not the child . So keep the child and his behavior as two separate things. you can say this behavior is annoying me instead of you are annoying me. that makes a big difference
   
8. We loose patience with our children because we expect our children to listen to us, behave in a certain manner , do the things we expect them to do.
   
9. if you relax he child will also releax.
10. remember he is only a child and all he doing is exploring his world . he is making an identity of his own, he is being himself.
11. remember that your child has a journey of his own, for which you are there to equip him with the necessary tools.
12. As you are trying hard the child is also trying hard is what wee need to trust.
13. The child is trying to make sense of all the things around him the way he is seeing it.
14. Become a coach to your child rather than a teacher.
15. Before you say anything just see if you would like anybody to say that to you. if no, than don't say that.
    
16. Keep checking as to what you want your child to be when he grows up ? if you want to see him as an independent person start treating him like that from today, if you want to see your child a leader, than let him lead you today , if you weant him to be responsible then give him the responsibility what we sow now is what reaps later.
17. give positive messages to the child so he starts believing in himself and his strengths.
18. Don't label the child. It remains for life . If you want to label et all give him positive labels which reflects his strengths and not his weaknesses. They become part of the belief later on.
19. Believe in your child as having huge potential to accomplish anything.
20. Let go of your EGO when working with your child. It's a gain for you to loose many times with your child.
21. Admire, Adore your child as if he the best child in the whole world. (non-verbally)
22. Only valuable gift we can give our child is to give back the child in him/her.
23. The behavior many times you see outside you is a manifestation of your own behavior. So beware of your Behavior!
24. Understand that the child is not your property but your responsibility .
25. Criticism and comparison takes me away from ME
26. Be firm yet in an loving manner.
    

Will keep adding .....just a rough list