My Nature / My values

I generally talk my heart. I think we all do.
Whenever Jayant says to me what made you say that, you should not have said that, I try to defend myself as to why? what did I do wrong? On my part my intentions are positive and doesn't mean to hurt anybody, but when somebody raises that point it gives you one more perspective as to what the other person may be thinking or understanding.

Many times I am hassled by the thought as to are your "intentions being understood right " ? Have you been disturbed by this thought? what is this? What plays a role in this ?

I think many of us say and do things operating from our values/nature.

for eg:
If somebody wants their place clean and keeps wiping every minute something falls down( the persons values cleanliness) , but if the other person perceives it as something else then there is disharmony.
If I don't like getting late to a party, that may be because i value time, on the other hand if you have to deal with somebody who values something else than there is conflict.
If manasi screams whenever I pack her bag ,it may be because her nature is she wants things to be done in her way.
If manasi screams if I feed her without a spoon, it may be because her nature is for things to be visually appealing for her to accept.
If I get disturbed , agitated , frustrated over things that may be because I value efficiency.
If I get annoyed over things that are not kept in the right place because I value being organised.
If I get restless when people don't turn up on time , that may be because I value time.

When I say the persons nature(character) is like that , than I think you are saying what he values most ? If some body is hurrying you for you are getting late to get to some place and you say he is so restless, we are missing out on what his values are here ?
Now how does that get developed and framed ? ????????????

Wouldn't life be so fulfilling if we all could understand that we are all slaves to these values which we have formed and are constantly operating from these.

keep wondering ....